Grief is so tricky, your writing is lovely. I needed this today, too. I lost my mom to suicide in 2017 and it’s been quite a journey ever since, uncovering family secrets and abuse that led her to make the choice she made. I’m trying hard to let myself be angry though & not jump too quickly to compassion all of the time… I’m starting to think that if we don’t let ourselves be human and angry, we sort of miss a step. Thank you for being here, too!
I am losing my husband of 39 years day by day to Lewy Body dementia. It’s a slow, cruel death. The grief starts when the loss begins. Thanks for sharing, Jason.
Jason, you know you have men like me standing right beside you. My father suicided at 37 and my son did at 18. The grace was my stepfather who was utterly devoted to my mother for 30 years. The grace is my son’s best friends who also miss him mightily and have become my chosen children.
Thank you so much brother. I know that and it's very, very important to me. I'm so, so sorry to hear about your devastating losses. I hope that you're finding some sense of peace and healing. ♥️♥️
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. It’s been 3 1/2 years for me and most days I feel like I’m making progress. With my anniversary and husband’s birthday coming up I feel triggered and have begun to get lost in my grief all over again. I know it will pass but I wonder all over if it will always feel this raw. Again, thank you for being real with your emotions. It helps to know there are others who truly understand this grief.
I'm so sorry to hear you lost your husband, Rebekah. It sounds like you love him very, very much and I think that's beautiful.
I think the unpredictability of grief is one of the things that makes it so hard. Just when you feel like you're making some "progress", you're blindsided by another incredibly difficult day.
And the hard truth, is that those difficult days, and how you face them, are the progress. Just as much as the happier and easier days.
Even though we might logically know that, that awareness can feel like cold comfort when grief washes over us. Knowing it will happen again and again and again but rarely knowing when it will happen again can compound the pain and sadness. It's hard to deal with knowing that there are countless other mountains to climb when it's taking everything you've got to climb the one right in front of you.
You're not alone, friend. And while that might not change anything on a day to day basis, remembering that might make some hard moments just a little easier. ♥️♥️
I lost my mum, my soulmate 10 years ago, far too early. The pain still lives within me. I haven’t ’recovered’ and doubt I ever will. I have chosen to live, to find healing, to do the things that give me peace.
Thank you for sharing your grief. I can feel it in your words. We are not alone ❤️
I'm so sorry you lost your mama, Keely. Your love for her is a testament to the kind of person she was. Thank you for sharing a little piece of your story with me. ♥️♥️
Thank you, Jason! I am so deeply sorry for your loss! You've beautifully articulated what so many struggle to express, at least I know have. Losing my husband, 8 years ago this month, has left a deep ache that no amount of time has diminished. And so, I carry it. ❤️
Hi Jason. I am so very sorry for the horrible losses you have endured. I too have lost someone who meant the world to me, at a time when I was in the thick of life and needed her. Loosing my mom in 2011, the only parent I ever had, was devastating. The words you spoke hit home, especially that feeling of running. As I read that, I could literally feel that feeling in my soul, like it was still so fresh yet so far away. Grief is the crazy thing that never truly leaves but changes through time. I too have grown tremendously and am grateful for all she left me with. May we continue to grow and share our story to help others still deep in the darkness. Thank you 👏
You hit the nail squarely on the head with this, Jason. We write through loss to remind ourselves that we continue to love and perpetually work to make them proud. Writing is one key to my heart healing, but living with my eyes wide open is the other. What do I mean? Romancing my way through travel and walks and sunrises and sunsets, returns the love to me. Time is the only antidote to moving through grief.
Great job writing this, Jason. It was just what I needed at the exact time I needed to read it. I feel the emotion in your words, and I just soaked it all in. What a wonderful blessing you have given me. Take care, dear brother, and may God richly bless your life. Take care!
Grief is so tricky, your writing is lovely. I needed this today, too. I lost my mom to suicide in 2017 and it’s been quite a journey ever since, uncovering family secrets and abuse that led her to make the choice she made. I’m trying hard to let myself be angry though & not jump too quickly to compassion all of the time… I’m starting to think that if we don’t let ourselves be human and angry, we sort of miss a step. Thank you for being here, too!
I think you're exactly right about that, friend. I'm so sorry you lost your momma and I hope you're able to find some sense of peace and healing ♥️
"Healing demands that we remember what is on our control." I needed to hear that today. Thank you.
You’re welcome Caroline. I’m glad you found it helpful ♥️
I am losing my husband of 39 years day by day to Lewy Body dementia. It’s a slow, cruel death. The grief starts when the loss begins. Thanks for sharing, Jason.
I'm so sorry this is happening to your family. It must be absolutely torturous.
And I agree. The grief starts when you realize the life and future you imagined is over. It's so damn painful. ♥️
Jason, you know you have men like me standing right beside you. My father suicided at 37 and my son did at 18. The grace was my stepfather who was utterly devoted to my mother for 30 years. The grace is my son’s best friends who also miss him mightily and have become my chosen children.
Thank you so much brother. I know that and it's very, very important to me. I'm so, so sorry to hear about your devastating losses. I hope that you're finding some sense of peace and healing. ♥️♥️
" trying to reconcile the irreconcilable" <3 yes
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. It’s been 3 1/2 years for me and most days I feel like I’m making progress. With my anniversary and husband’s birthday coming up I feel triggered and have begun to get lost in my grief all over again. I know it will pass but I wonder all over if it will always feel this raw. Again, thank you for being real with your emotions. It helps to know there are others who truly understand this grief.
I'm so sorry to hear you lost your husband, Rebekah. It sounds like you love him very, very much and I think that's beautiful.
I think the unpredictability of grief is one of the things that makes it so hard. Just when you feel like you're making some "progress", you're blindsided by another incredibly difficult day.
And the hard truth, is that those difficult days, and how you face them, are the progress. Just as much as the happier and easier days.
Even though we might logically know that, that awareness can feel like cold comfort when grief washes over us. Knowing it will happen again and again and again but rarely knowing when it will happen again can compound the pain and sadness. It's hard to deal with knowing that there are countless other mountains to climb when it's taking everything you've got to climb the one right in front of you.
You're not alone, friend. And while that might not change anything on a day to day basis, remembering that might make some hard moments just a little easier. ♥️♥️
Thank you 🙏🏼❤️
I lost my mum, my soulmate 10 years ago, far too early. The pain still lives within me. I haven’t ’recovered’ and doubt I ever will. I have chosen to live, to find healing, to do the things that give me peace.
Thank you for sharing your grief. I can feel it in your words. We are not alone ❤️
I'm so sorry you lost your mama, Keely. Your love for her is a testament to the kind of person she was. Thank you for sharing a little piece of your story with me. ♥️♥️
Thank you, Jason! I am so deeply sorry for your loss! You've beautifully articulated what so many struggle to express, at least I know have. Losing my husband, 8 years ago this month, has left a deep ache that no amount of time has diminished. And so, I carry it. ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss and I admire your spirit and resilience ♥️
Hi Jason. I am so very sorry for the horrible losses you have endured. I too have lost someone who meant the world to me, at a time when I was in the thick of life and needed her. Loosing my mom in 2011, the only parent I ever had, was devastating. The words you spoke hit home, especially that feeling of running. As I read that, I could literally feel that feeling in my soul, like it was still so fresh yet so far away. Grief is the crazy thing that never truly leaves but changes through time. I too have grown tremendously and am grateful for all she left me with. May we continue to grow and share our story to help others still deep in the darkness. Thank you 👏
Amen friend. Thank you for your beautiful note and I'm so sorry you lost you mom ♥️♥️
A tour de force.
Thank you so much ♥️
Thanks for sharing Jason✨️ Much Appreciated ✨️
You hit the nail squarely on the head with this, Jason. We write through loss to remind ourselves that we continue to love and perpetually work to make them proud. Writing is one key to my heart healing, but living with my eyes wide open is the other. What do I mean? Romancing my way through travel and walks and sunrises and sunsets, returns the love to me. Time is the only antidote to moving through grief.
Grief is hard - it is not something you ‘get over’ but you can learn from it and get through it especially with others who care about you.
I needed this. Thank you.
You're so welcome ♥️♥️
Do you also know what it feels like to scream l, huge and silent, so your jaw hurts as the tears tumble down in waterfalls?
Great job writing this, Jason. It was just what I needed at the exact time I needed to read it. I feel the emotion in your words, and I just soaked it all in. What a wonderful blessing you have given me. Take care, dear brother, and may God richly bless your life. Take care!
You're so welcome, brother. I'm so glad it resonated with you. ♥️♥️