This is really, really, really good. I process verbally, and am married to a partner who processes internally--deeply. All of your suggestions/tools are very, very effective. (I just learned & used the LEAD model. Highly emotional situation. It helped. A LOT.) So, thank you, thank you. And I heartily support and celebrate your recalibration to your Center. --a fellow SubStacker
I am SO glad to hear that Mary! And good for you for putting into practice. If you get a chance to try the interactive coaches, I'd love to hear what you think.
Thanks so much for reading and for your encouragement!
Thank you so much for your work, Jason. ❤️ I am both sad and glad that you’ve gone through what you’ve gone through to be able to write about this in such a helpful way. (I hope that makes sense in the way that I mean for it to).
The Difficult Conversations Coach is amazing. In just a few sentences, it’s already helped me get clarity around how to handle a situation that has been weighing heavily on me for months.
I also wanted to try the Emotional Validation coach, but it doesn’t seem to be working. I will 100% get the course, though.
Hi Ginger! I'm so glad you found it helpful. This approach to addressing difficult issues has transformed my ability to bring them up. It allows what needs to be said to be said when it can be said to its best effect.
And it has the benefit of allowing you to strengthen the relationship at the same time.
The Emotional Validation coach works for me - I just tested it out - if you let me know what's happening for you I'll help me out so you can try it! You are going to LOVE it.
This is so incredibly helpful. Holding space for someone while they grieve can be tough. I love having a framework to help with that process. I love reading your process and thoughts — growing your substack and all! 💙
This hits like a bell in a cave we forgot we were hiding in.
The way you name the pivot—back toward presence instead of performance—feels like holy ground to me. Somewhere between the grief that won’t be fixed and the connection that still dares to try, these tools you’re offering (freely now, like communion) feel like they come not from the head but from the ache. From having fumbled it. From staying.
The “Experience Cube” and LEAD model aren’t just frameworks—they’re midwives for real conversation, the kind that doesn’t try to rescue or repair but dares to remain.
And maybe that’s what love is. Not the fixer, not the avoider. Just the one who stays.
Thank you for refusing to polish the grief into a product. This was needed.
This is lovely. My sister has been grieving a broken marriage, and I know I am the only person who gives her any kind of loving support. She withholds a lot, but when she does call, I drop everything to listen as long as she likes. This is very useful information you are providing, Jason. Thank you for your work.
This is the right thing to share openly on Substack. Great work, and thank you for doing so. I am sure people will look to you when they find themselves in this situation.
This is really, really, really good. I process verbally, and am married to a partner who processes internally--deeply. All of your suggestions/tools are very, very effective. (I just learned & used the LEAD model. Highly emotional situation. It helped. A LOT.) So, thank you, thank you. And I heartily support and celebrate your recalibration to your Center. --a fellow SubStacker
I am SO glad to hear that Mary! And good for you for putting into practice. If you get a chance to try the interactive coaches, I'd love to hear what you think.
Thanks so much for reading and for your encouragement!
Thank you so much for your work, Jason. ❤️ I am both sad and glad that you’ve gone through what you’ve gone through to be able to write about this in such a helpful way. (I hope that makes sense in the way that I mean for it to).
The Difficult Conversations Coach is amazing. In just a few sentences, it’s already helped me get clarity around how to handle a situation that has been weighing heavily on me for months.
I also wanted to try the Emotional Validation coach, but it doesn’t seem to be working. I will 100% get the course, though.
Your work is fantastic. Thank you!
Hi Ginger! I'm so glad you found it helpful. This approach to addressing difficult issues has transformed my ability to bring them up. It allows what needs to be said to be said when it can be said to its best effect.
And it has the benefit of allowing you to strengthen the relationship at the same time.
The Emotional Validation coach works for me - I just tested it out - if you let me know what's happening for you I'll help me out so you can try it! You are going to LOVE it.
Thanks so much for reading, friend.
What a fantastic article - thank you so much for this. Such practical, valuable wisdom!
This is so incredibly helpful. Holding space for someone while they grieve can be tough. I love having a framework to help with that process. I love reading your process and thoughts — growing your substack and all! 💙
Thank you friend. It makes me super happy that you found the tools and ideas useful! ♥️♥️
This hits like a bell in a cave we forgot we were hiding in.
The way you name the pivot—back toward presence instead of performance—feels like holy ground to me. Somewhere between the grief that won’t be fixed and the connection that still dares to try, these tools you’re offering (freely now, like communion) feel like they come not from the head but from the ache. From having fumbled it. From staying.
The “Experience Cube” and LEAD model aren’t just frameworks—they’re midwives for real conversation, the kind that doesn’t try to rescue or repair but dares to remain.
And maybe that’s what love is. Not the fixer, not the avoider. Just the one who stays.
Thank you for refusing to polish the grief into a product. This was needed.
You might like this week's Hidden Brain podcast What Is Your Life For. Shankar interviews Vic Strecher who lost his daughter. 🤍 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hidden-brain/id1028908750?i=1000715183323
This is lovely. My sister has been grieving a broken marriage, and I know I am the only person who gives her any kind of loving support. She withholds a lot, but when she does call, I drop everything to listen as long as she likes. This is very useful information you are providing, Jason. Thank you for your work.
Thank you friend. I'm so glad you found it helpful and you sound like a wonderful sister!
I hope so. It's a learned experience. That is why your posts are so meaningful.
Thank you friend. I'm so glad you found it helpful and you sound like a wonderful sister!
This is the right thing to share openly on Substack. Great work, and thank you for doing so. I am sure people will look to you when they find themselves in this situation.
Wow. You are an inspiration! Thank you for your course! I can’t wait to dig in and for this post. I really appreciate it! 💙
This is great stuff. Excited to read more. Nobody is born knowing how to work with grief nor those who are grieving.
Thank you friend. I'm glad you found it helpful and I look forward to your feedback as you read more!