The Right Questions Can Change Everything
Better Questions. Deeper Connection. Stronger Relationship.
Most couples talk every day—but how often do you have a conversation that actually goes somewhere? One that brings you closer, sparks real laughter, or reminds you why you chose each other in the first place?
The right questions unlock that. They surface stories you’ve never heard, perspectives you didn’t expect, and moments that make you see each other in a whole new way.
Curiosity isn’t just a skill—it’s a mindset. And the more you practice it, the stronger, deeper, and more unshakable your relationship becomes.
Start with Play (Lighthearted, Fun, Unexpected)
If you had to pitch me on a dating show, what would your sales pitch be?
What’s a weird quirk I have that I don’t even realize?
If we swapped roles for a day, what would be the hardest part for me?
What’s a song that instantly reminds you of us? Why?
What’s something we do now that younger us would’ve never believed?
If we had a couples’ tagline, what would it be?
What’s something small I do that always makes you smile?
If our relationship had a movie title, what would it be?
What’s a TV or movie couple that reminds you of us—for better or worse?
If we had an unlimited budget for a date night, what would we do?
What’s an inside joke of ours you never want to forget?
What’s something random that always makes you think of me?
If I had a theme song, what would it be?
Go Deeper (Memories, Meaning, Reflection)
What made you fall in love with me?
When have you seen me at my best? What was happening?
When was a time you felt unexpectedly humbled, and what did you take away from it?
What’s a belief about relationships that’s changed since we’ve been together?
When was the last time you felt truly inspired? What was it about?
What’s an experience we’ve had that proves we make a great team?
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever gotten, and how did it change you?
When have you seen me be courageous? What was I doing?
What’s something from your past you wish you could see differently?
When was a time you experienced deep empathy for someone?
What’s a challenge you’ve overcome that you’re proud of?
What’s an idea that’s had a major positive impact on your personal or professional life?
What’s something about me you’ve come to appreciate even more over time?
When was the last time you felt truly understood?
Strengthen Your Connection (Support, Affirmation, Perspective)
When do you feel most loved and supported by me? What am I doing?
What are some things we do that make our kids lucky to have us as parents?
How would you describe my ability to support you emotionally, in both good times and bad?
What’s a part of you that you see in our kids that makes you especially happy?
When are we at our best as a couple?
What do you value most about our partnership?
What are some of the strengths you see in me that make you love me even more?
What’s a small thing I do that makes a big difference in how you feel?
How have I grown since we’ve been together?
What’s something you’ve learned from me that has made your life even better?
What’s a way I communicate that makes you feel safe and open?
What’s a simple thing I could do that would make you feel even more loved?
What’s something you don’t say often enough, but you feel about me?
What’s a way we’ve grown together that you’re proud of?
Dream Forward (Vision, Excitement, Growth)
Imagine it’s one year from today, and we’re celebrating how we’ve grown as a couple. What would you love for us to be celebrating?
What’s a new tradition we could start together that would be meaningful for you?
What’s something you want more of in your life, and how can I help you get it?
When our kids are older and look back at us, what do you hope they say we modeled for them?
If we planned a trip just for us, where would we go and why?
What’s a small change we could make that would bring even more joy into our daily life?
What’s a dream you haven’t shared with me yet?
If we could design our perfect weekend together, what would it look like?
What’s a skill you’d love to develop, and how could I encourage you?
What’s a cause or passion we could work on together that would bring us even closer?
If we made a “relationship bucket list,” what’s something you’d want to add?
What’s a habit or routine we could build that would make us even stronger as a couple?
If we could relive one day from our relationship, which one would you choose?
What’s something you’d love for us to learn together this year?
What’s one way I could grow to be an even better partner to you?
The Secret Isn’t Just in the Questions…
It’s in how you listen. The pauses. The moments where you let it land. The curiosity to ask, “Tell me more.”
Try one or two. See where they take you. You might be surprised at what you learn—and how much closer it brings you.
YOUR NEXT STEPS: Learn The Most Important Relationship Skill You Were Never Taught
Ever been in a conversation where someone was grieving, upset, or overwhelmed—and you had no idea what to say?
Maybe you tried to cheer them up, offered advice they didn’t want, or just froze, unsure of how to help. And afterward, you couldn’t shake the feeling that you could’ve shown up better.
💡 You’re not alone. Most people struggle with this—not because they don’t care, but because no one ever taught them how.
That’s why I created The LEAD Model Training—so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start being the person people turn to in their hardest moments.
Here’s What You’ll Walk Away With:
✅ A simple, repeatable framework (Label, Explore, Acknowledge, Decide) that works in any emotional conversation.
✅ Confidence in what to say (and what NOT to say) so you never feel awkward or unsure again.
✅ Proven techniques that make people feel deeply heard—without forcing them to open up.
✅ Real-world role-play scenarios so you’re not just learning, you’re practicing.
Most people:
🚫 Jump to fixing before someone is ready.
🚫 Say things that make people shut down without realizing it.
🚫 Avoid tough conversations altogether out of fear of saying the wrong thing.
But the people who get this right? They build deeper relationships, gain unshakable trust, and become the person others turn to when it truly matters.
🔥 If you’re ready to stop feeling helpless in emotional conversations, join the LEAD Model Training today.



I like this! My husband and I are in the “we’ve been married so long we have nothing to talk about” stage.
These are some really good ideas.
These are great questions! Thanks