Why am I Doing This?

life, love, death, growth

I’m sitting here, staring a mostly blank screen, wondering what the fuck I’m trying to accomplish.

More likely, I’m quite clear but I’m wondering whether or not I have the stones to actually accomplish it.

I know I want to help men navigate and grow through some of life’s hardest things.

I want to help men rethink grief, embrace it and become better human beings in the process.

I want to help men get their lives in order after a devastating loss.

That all sounds important, right?

At the same time, I’m wondering how much I want to think and talk about grief.

I’m sure it will be painful. I’ll dredge up lots of memories that sometimes I’d rather not think about at all.

And yet, I believe that this might help men live better lives and show up as better husbands and fathers. That’s super important to me.

I know I need to learn a lot more about it and then I need to distill it down into simple, immediately practical tools that men can use right away.

That part seems fun to me. I love to learn and I love to create systems and tools people can use right away.

This might amount to nothing more than the ramblings of some 50-year old guy.

It also might turn into something much more than that.

Either way, the only way anything will happen is if I make it happen.

I’ve written a book before - on how vulnerability makes you a better husband and father.

Based on the feedback I’ve gotten, it’s had an impact on the lives of quite a few men.

I’ve done it already. So I know I can do it again.

I’m going to start my second post with just writing about who I am and my story.

Even that seems a little daunting.

I’ve told it so many times that the idea of telling it again seems like a bit of a drag.

So, I’ll do my best to tell it through the context of grief so it has a different, more relevant spin on it.

I’m going to be learning a hell of a lot as I write this.

I’m not an expert on grief at all.

I’m just a guy that lost someone really important to him to suicide and is still dealing with the impacts.

But, I know through the process of writing and sharing with you that I will learn a hell of a lot.

And if you stick with me, you will too.

If you made it this far…I’m a little amazed.

Maybe together, we can go really fucking far and make a huge positive difference in the world.

”If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together”

Jay

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